As I have learned from my own life, and from the conversations I've had with my other girls, it seems it's so easy for us girls to become discouraged in our time of waiting for Mr. Right to come along. We see everyone else's stories come together, yet ours still hasn't. It's hard to be patient and wait for that time to come. It's hard to not get discouraged. It's hard to persevere and hold your head high. I know it is. But I'm here to tell you today...Do not be dismayed.
Do not be dismayed. For you are not alone. There are so, sooo many girls out there waiting just like you for the right man to come along. You can't always see it, and most of the time you think no one else knows what it feels like, but you're wrong. You are not alone.
Do not be dismayed. For now is a time to draw near to the Lord. "Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world." James 4:8 ...Mr. Right isn't here yet, but God is. It's time to fill your longing for a future husband with a longing for God. How can you fully love someone when you don't fully love God? Love God first, then He'll give you the love you need for someone else. "May the Lord lead your hearts into a full understanding and expression of the love of God and the patient endurance that comes from Christ." 2 Thessalonians 3:5
Deuteronomy 6:5:
"And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength."
Do not be dismayed. For now is the time to learn contentment. "Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have." Philippians 4:11.. If you aren't content now, how will you be content when your married? You must learn to be content now, in this stage. You must learn to be content being single and you must learn to be content in whichever state you are in. There will be stages in marriage that will flare up huge opportunities for discontentment.. but if you can learn to be content now, you'll be all the better off when those times of discontentment arise in marriage. Contentment now, brings contentment later. "Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth." 1 Timothy 6:6
Do not be dismayed. For now is a time to prepare yourself. This is a time to learn skills of being a wife and a mother. A time to learn to cook, clean, do laundry, care for a family, and care for a home. And most of all, a time to learn how to serve your husband. Don't sit around looking for guys and worrying about who it could be, or why it's taking so long. Get up and prepare yourself. Cook a meal, babysit someone's kid, help your mom or dad with something. There are numerous things that being a wife is going to consist of. And you most likely aren't prepared for a lot of those things. So start preparing now. Now is the time to develop the numerous skills necessary in being a wife. Study Proverbs 31. Learn what it means to be a true, serving, God-honoring wife and mother. Now's the time. What a sad thing it would be if the right man came along and you weren't prepared to serve him the way he needs to be served.
Do not be dismayed. For now is a time to fix any flaws you have. Wouldn't it be nice to have those awful habits and sins gone before the man you love comes into your life and has to deal with them? We aren't perfect and never will be... But there is so much we can work on and rid ourselves of. And now is the time to start. You know what you need to work on...And if you don't, ask your parents. Or a close friend that really knows you. If all else, just work on beauty within. Work on becoming a woman of obedience, submission, and reverence. Work on building character and a tender heart. Work on developing a gentle and quiet spirit. 1 Peter says, "Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."
Do not be dismayed. For now is a time to serve. Now is a time to use YOUR time to serve God. Ask Him what it is that He wants you to do. There are many ways of serving. "God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another." 1 Peter 4:10
Romans 12:11
"Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically."
Matthew 20:28
"For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many."
Do not be dismayed. For now is the time to pray for your future husband. Pray, pray, pray! You can be praying right now for the life of your future husband, even if you don't know who it is! Pray for God to give him a heart that desires to bring Him praise. Pray for his protection. Pray for him to have strength and discernment. Pray for him to have patience to wait for you. Pray that he would resist temptation. Just pray for Him. I know for a fact that he needs your prayers. God is using you to serve him right now, even before you meet! And He is doing it through your prayers! I highly recommend the book "Praying for your future husband" by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer.
Psalm 65:5
"You faithfully answer our prayers with awesome deeds,
O God our savior. You are the hope of everyone on earth,
even those who sail on distant seas."
1 John 5:14-15
"And we are confident that he hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases him. And since we know he hears us when we make our requests, we also know that he will give us what we ask for. "
Do not be dismayed ladies. For now is an opportunity for many things. God has you here for a reason. Rejoice and conquer in it. Who you are as a single lady will be who you are as a married woman. If you not content, you won't be content in marriage. If you are lazy, you will be lazy in marriage. If you aren't submissive to your parents and authority, you won't be submissive to your husband. If you're a liar and disrespectful, you'll be both to your husband during marriage. So start now, prepare yourself. Love God, and serve Him. Instead of spending every minute of your lives thinking of that man or of who he'll be, look into your own life and start preparing for when he comes. I highly suggest reading the book "Preparing to be a Help Meet," by Debi Pearl for more insight.
Also we need to not look at every guy as a possibility, but instead, look at them as brothers in Christ and develop healthy friendships with him instead of making everything into a love game.
Remember, you aren't alone. There are many of us waiting and there are many of us preparing. I am one.
"To spend my unmarried years discontently counting the moments until I'm married-if I marry- missing out on all the blessings and opportunities the Lord has provided for me here and now, for his glory...that would truly be a waste." Jasmine Baucham
Isaiah 40:31
"But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength.
They will soar high on wings like eagles.
They will run and not grow weary.
They will walk and not faint."
*top quote by Jasmine Baucham as well*
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